A hand job or penis massage is a wonderful way to please your man. It usually goes hand in hand with a blow job, but it can be performed as a solo act too. Doing it right can bring him to orgasm without even performing fellatio or intercourse.

The  same golden rule of fellatio applies for hand jobs: communication is key. Finding out what your partner likes is always the #1 way to please him. Some guys like it wet, while a few find the friction between your hand and their penis very erotic. Some guys think saliva is a very sexy lube, but I know others who think saliva is gross and would rather use real lubricant. So talk to your man first to determine what he loves.

Yet as a general rule, I would use lube. So before you even start the hand job, pour lubricant onto your palms and rub them together. Then liberally apply it to your partner’s genitals. Make sure you cover not only the penis but also his testicles, and perineum. There are various moves you can try, or just come up with your own. Below are two of the most common hand job techniques: the ‘ah-ok’ and the ‘all hands on deck’ hand grips.

While performing the hand job, though, remember that the penis is a very sensitive pack of nerves, which should have been labeled ‘handle with care’.  That means don’t pull on it too much,  or hold it too tight.

If you want to learn about more moves, I advise you to pick up Sadie Allison’s Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing book. Packed of wonderful info.